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American Women Really Don't Like You
Any man who has dated Asian ladies who live in the United
States, has witness the wrath, jealously and prejudice of
American women towards Asian ladies. I know I have, as have many
of my friends. The stereotypical has some merit: American women
can’t compete against the Asians’ sexuality, American women feel
threaten and some American women simply think Asians are
stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
My experience is first hand. I dated many Asian ladies and have
heard the comments. If we frequent a typical American club, I
have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In
time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian
club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American
lady being threaten by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just
isn’t their nature. The crowd in these clubs are usually Asian
ladies and American men.
There are many Asian ladies in the U.S., especially from the
Philippines. A lot of these ladies arrived via meeting an
American G.I. I really don’t know the percentage, but there is
no doubt that most Filipina ladies have a military connection in
some way. They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to
the United States with their military husband. Consequently,
you’ll meet Asian ladies in clubs who are married. If you mingle
with Asian ladies that frequent the clubs for any length of
time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful. This
unfaithfulness is how Filipina ladies are branded as whores by
American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American
women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when
behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
What the American GI has discovered is now catching on with
non-military men. Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the
internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians’
sexuality. However, there are many Asian ladies who want to meet
a sincere gentlemen for a relationship. As attractive as Asian
ladies may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians’
behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants
to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in
making a home seems to have been found by American men in the
Asian culture. You’ll hear American men call these values
“traditional values” because at one time these were the values
that held the American family together.
The tired argument about these women being a servant to their
husband, is one sided. Do these women like serving their
husband? Yes, most do. But not as slaves. They are not forced to
do so, but have the desire to please their man out of
appreciation and love. These ladies are doing what they want to
do. I repeat, they WANT to please their man, do things for him
and show their appreciation. In turn, these men are happy, want
to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere
for this appreciation. It’s chemistry that once prevailed many
years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad
of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another
country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want
a better life. It’s probably true. I will argue that most women,
no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again,
it is the hypocrisy of who you are that makes a behavior
negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look
in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides
wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
In a Filipina lady’s eyes, men from the West treat women better
then men from their country. Is there truth to this? The feed
back I get from the ladies at my website is yes or at least they
perceive it to be so. I’m sure the social status of your family
makes a difference of how you are treated regardless of your
gender, but I’m talking about the average Filipina lady. The
difference is simple. In her country what she does for her man
or husband is expected without appreciation. Here in the United
States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve
him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an
Asian lady does, his appreciation is certain. For an Asian lady,
the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star,
just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round
with respect and love as it’s focal point. She wants to please
him, he loves her for pleasing him, she loves him for showing he
appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their
exceptions. There is no doubt, there are bad men in every
country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for
the money or to get a free pass to the United States. These are
the exceptions and it is this minority that the media and others
will use to blanket a whole culture in a negative light. I’m
sure most of you have seen in print or on the news about “mail
order bride” scandals or “mail order bride” mistreatment as if
this defines all courtships and marriages that develop through
the internet. If a few instances defines the standards, then
just getting a marriage license in the United States should have
a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through
the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share
of scandals and mistreatment. The last culture of experts that
needs to be giving advise about how to meet and marry a women is
the United States – is there any other country whose divorce
rate is higher?
The Philippines does not condone online dating sites. For that
matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law
here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!. If
the Philippines are so worried about women rights, there are
other issues they could concentrate on besides taking away a
women’s right to find happiness, love and a better life for
herself. She wouldn’t be looking elsewhere, if the Philippine
government took care of her needs. Should I complain? Probably
not, or most Filipina women would not be joining online dating
sites to meet American men. My objection to this law is how it
is used in the Philippines as a political vehicle rather then
sincere concern for women’s rights. Hypocrisy, it is everywhere,
isn’t it?
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women
despise Asian women. Not all American women, but a lot. But the
discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media,
politics and indeed in their own country. The people who are
forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If
two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to
be together, why does the media and politician think they know
better. More then likely, it isn’t about what the couple want,
but more about politics and sensationalism to sell news. Take
your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity
elsewhere and let us find love – even if we find it on the
internet.
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